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This ritual was designed to help release unhealthy relationships, heal from heartbreak, break emotional attachments, and create space for the love you truly deserve.

Sometimes relationships end because they're meant to. Sometimes we outgrow each other. Sometimes we finally realize we've been settling for less than we deserve. Whether you're healing from a breakup, letting go of someone who keeps finding their way back into your life, or simply closing the door on relationships that no longer serve you, this ritual was designed to help support those goals.

If you're a baby witch, you'll find detailed instructions to guide you through the process. No gatekeeping here.

If you're a seasoned practitioner, take a look anyway. Included is helpful information on your kit, techniques I have found to be especially effective beyond lighting a wick, and suggestions for continuing the work after the initial ritual is complete.

Full Ritual Instructions

Begin by creating sacred space. Light incense and play music that helps you shift into a ritual mindset. The included herbal blend may be burned on charcoal, or you may use an incense of your own choosing. Cleanse both your aura and your physical space. As the smoke rises, visualize heartbreak, disappointment, unhealthy attachments, lingering emotions, and anyone who no longer deserves access to your energy dissolving and leaving your field.

If desired, create an altar or ritual workspace using photographs, old letters, meaningful objects from the relationship, crystals, fresh flowers, symbols of healing, or other objects connected to the relationship you're ready to release. If you do not maintain a formal spiritual practice, simply choose a quiet space where you can be alone and focus clearly on your intention.

On a piece of paper, write a clear and specific petition describing what you're ready to let go of. This may be the person, relationship itself, painful memories, unhealthy patterns, or anything else that's keeping your heart stuck in the past. Be as specific as possible.

Hold the petition paper between your hands and charge it with your intention. Picture yourself free from the weight you've been carrying. Imagine your heart feeling lighter, your confidence returning, and yourself looking toward the future instead of the past. Allow yourself to fully experience the feelings of peace, relief, freedom, and self-worth.

Next, hold the candle in your hands and charge it with the same intention. Carve names, affirmations, broken hearts, sigils, or phrases related to your desired outcome into the wax.

Apply the ritual oil to the candle, sprinkle a small amount of herbal blend onto your petition paper, then roll the candle through the herbs while speaking your intention aloud.

Place the dressed candle into the included cast iron holder and set it inside a fire-safe bowl or dish. Fold your petition paper away from yourself once, then continue folding counterclockwise four times to symbolically send the relationship and everything attached to it out of your life. Place the folded petition beneath the candle holder.

Light the candle and allow it to burn completely. Spend a few quiet moments thanking the relationship for whatever lessons it brought, then lovingly release it. 

Once the candle has finished burning, leave the petition beneath the holder overnight. The following day, either burn the petition to ash in a fire-safe container or dispose of it away from your home in a body of water or in the earth. Many practitioners prefer to leave breakup and release work at a crossroads or public trash receptacle as a symbolic act of moving forward. Personally, I love releasing mine into the swamps, but wherever you feel called—and have safe, legal access to—will be the right choice for your practice.

So mote it be.

Working With Your Kit

Each ritual kit contains enough oil and herbal material for up to 30 rituals or spell workings, depending on how heavily they are used.

Herbal Blend

Use for candle dressing, incense, offerings, healing work, release rituals, uncrossing, cord-cutting, self-love practices, or other spellwork focused on emotional renewal and healthy endings.

Ritual Oil

Use on candles, petitions, journals, ritual tools, mirrors, bath water, or objects connected to your healing journey. May also be worn on pulse points whenever you need a reminder that you're worthy of healthy, reciprocal love.

White or Pink Chime Candle

For release and healing

Cast Iron Chime Candle Holder

Designed for use with the included chime candle.

Online-Exclusive Palo Santo

Use to cleanse yourself, your ritual tools, and your space before ritual work. May also be used after difficult conversations, emotional setbacks, or anytime you need an energetic reset.

Ongoing Use

Many practitioners continue working with the included oil while healing after a breakup, before dating again, during cord-cutting work, or whenever they need a reminder to stop settling for relationships that don't honor their worth.

Each ritual kit contains enough oil and herbal material for up to 30 individual workings when used primarily for candle dressing. Additional chime candles may be used to revisit the ritual whenever desired.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do I need experience to use this kit?

Not at all.

Bad Breakup was designed to be approachable for beginners while remaining useful for experienced practitioners.

Do I have to be getting over a recent breakup?

Absolutely not.

Many practitioners use this ritual to release old relationships, unhealthy attachments, situationships, emotional baggage, or recurring relationship patterns that continue showing up in their lives.

Is this a revenge spell?

No.

This ritual isn't about hurting anyone or forcing an outcome. It's about healing your heart, releasing what no longer serves you, and creating space for healthier love moving forward.

How often can I perform the ritual?

As often as you feel called.

Many practitioners revisit this work after difficult relationships, during major life transitions, before beginning a new relationship, or anytime they feel themselves slipping back into old patterns.

Do I have to use all of the herbs and oil at once?

Please don't!

A little goes a long way. Most kits contain enough material for up to 30 individual workings when used primarily for candle dressing. Additional herbs and oil may be used for incense, offerings, altar work, baths, and other healing-focused spiritual practices as desired.

Continue the Work

The ritual doesn't have to end when the candle burns out. If you'd like to continue the work, here are a few of my favorite and highly recommended companions to this ritual.

• So In Love With Me Ritual Gift Set: Herbal Baths and Tea (rebuild the relationship with yourself)

  • Before pouring your energy into someone else, refill your own cup with a ritual centered on self-love, confidence, and emotional healing.

• Bc I Feel Like Death Ritual Tea (gentle support while you heal)

  • Heartbreak is exhausting. Give yourself permission to rest, recharge, and take care of yourself one cup at a time.

• Magickal Healing Herbal Bath Set (deep emotional reset)

  • Set aside time to rest, reflect, and release as you soak in a ritual bath created from old tradition to banish illness and negativity from the body.

• Bitch Be Gone Ritual Body Sugar Scrub (scrub away lingering energy)

  • Turn an everyday shower into a cleansing ritual as you symbolically wash away lingering attachments and step into your next chapter.

• Bitch Be Gone Ritual Oil (keep your peace protected)

  • Continue reinforcing healthy boundaries and clearing lingering toxic energy before it can attach long after your candle has burned.