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This ritual was designed to help increase passion, heighten desire, strengthen physical attraction, and bring more excitement into your love life.

Sometimes that means reigniting the spark in an existing relationship. Sometimes it means calling in a passionate new one. Sometimes it's simply about bringing a little more playfulness, chemistry, affection, and really great sex into your life. However you choose to work with it, this ritual was designed to help support those goals.

If you're a baby witch, you'll find detailed instructions to guide you through the process. No gatekeeping here.

If you're a seasoned practitioner, take a look anyway. Included is helpful information on your kit, techniques I have found to be especially effective beyond lighting a wick, and suggestions for continuing the work after the initial ritual is complete.

Full Ritual Instructions

Begin by creating sacred space. Light incense and play music that helps you shift into a ritual mindset. The included herbal blend may be burned on charcoal, or you may use an incense of your own choosing. As the smoke rises, visualize stress, emotional distance, insecurity, routine, and anything standing between you and a healthy, passionate relationship dissolving and leaving your field.

If desired, create an altar or ritual workspace using photographs, fresh flowers, perfume, lingerie, jewelry, meaningful gifts, or other objects connected to the relationship you wish to strengthen or the partner you'd like to attract. If you do not maintain a formal spiritual practice, simply choose a quiet space where you can focus clearly on your intention.

On a piece of paper, write a clear and specific petition describing the relationship you'd like to experience. Focus on the passion, chemistry, attraction, affection, and physical connection you want to build. Don't focus on what's missing. Focus on what you're ready to receive.

Hold the petition paper between your hands and charge it with your intention. Close your eyes and picture the relationship already unfolding. See the two of you laughing together, flirting, making time for one another, touching each other more often, and having the kind of sex you can't stop thinking about. Allow yourself to fully experience the excitement, confidence, desire, and happiness that comes with it.

Next, hold the candle in your hands and charge it with the same intention. Carve hearts, initials, affirmations, sigils, names, or phrases related to your desired outcome into the wax.

Apply the ritual oil to the candle, sprinkle a small amount of herbal blend onto your petition paper, then roll the candle through the herbs while speaking your intention aloud.

Place the dressed candle into the included cast iron holder and set it inside a fire-safe bowl or dish. Fold your petition paper toward yourself once, then continue folding clockwise four times to symbolically draw passion, attraction, affection, and desire into your life. Place the folded petition beneath the candle holder.

Light the candle and allow it to burn completely. Spend a few moments imagining yourself enjoying the relationship you've been calling in. Focus on the excitement, passion, playfulness, and connection rather than wondering when or how it will happen.

Once the candle has finished burning, leave the petition beneath the holder overnight. The following day, either burn the petition to ash in a fire-safe container or place it beneath your mattress, inside your nightstand, or somewhere private as a reminder of the intention you've set.

So mote it be.

Working With Your Kit

Each ritual kit contains enough oil and herbal material for up to 30 rituals or spell workings, depending on how heavily they are used.

Herbal Blend

Use for candle dressing, incense, offerings, love work, attraction rituals, passion spellwork, glamour magic, or other rituals focused on romance, desire, and physical intimacy.

Ritual Oil

Use on candles, petitions, jewelry, perfume bottles, love letters, ritual tools, and objects connected to your intention. May also be worn on pulse points before dates, anniversaries, romantic evenings, or whenever you'd like to invite a little more passion and attraction into your life. (Patch test first for allergies and sensitivities. Made with sweet almond oil.)

Red Chime Candle

For passion, desire, attraction, romance, vitality, and fast-moving love magic.

Cast Iron Chime Candle Holder

Designed for use with the included chime candle.

Online-Exclusive Palo Santo

Use to cleanse yourself, your ritual tools, and your space before ritual work. May also be used whenever you feel disconnected from your partner, emotionally drained, or ready to leave old relationship energy behind.

Ongoing Use

Many practitioners continue working with the included oil before dates, anniversaries, romantic weekends, important conversations, or whenever they want to strengthen attraction, increase passion, or reconnect with their partner.

Each ritual kit contains enough oil and herbal material for up to 30 individual workings when used primarily for candle dressing. Additional chime candles may be used to revisit the ritual whenever desired.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do I need experience to use this kit?

Not at all.

Best I Ever Had was designed to be approachable for beginners while remaining useful for experienced practitioners.

Do I have to be in a relationship to use this kit?

Absolutely not.

Many practitioners use this ritual to call in a passionate new relationship, while others use it to strengthen the connection they already have. It works beautifully for either intention.

Is this just a love spell?

Not quite.

While love is certainly part of it, this ritual focuses specifically on passion, desire, attraction, chemistry, and physical intimacy. Many people pair it with other love rituals to create a more well-rounded relationship working.

How often can I perform the ritual?

As often as you feel called.

Many practitioners revisit passion work before anniversaries, romantic getaways, special occasions, during Venus transits, or whenever they feel the relationship could use a little extra spark.

Do I have to use all of the herbs and oil at once?

Please don't!

A little goes a long way. Most kits contain enough material for up to 30 individual workings when used primarily for candle dressing. Additional herbs and oil may be used for incense, offerings, glamour work, altar work, and other love-focused spiritual practices as desired.

Continue the Work

The ritual doesn't have to end when the candle burns out. If you'd like to continue the work, here are a few of my favorite companions to this ritual.

• So In Love With Me Herbal Bath & Ritual Tea Gift Set (strengthen the relationship with yourself)

  • The healthiest relationships begin with the one you have with yourself. This tea and herbal bath ritual helps cultivate self-love, confidence, and the energy of receiving.

• Venus Ritual Tea (work with the planet of love)

  • Sip in honor of Venus to support love, beauty, attraction, romance, and harmonious relationships.

• Glamorous Charm Bag (carry your attraction magic with you)

  • Keep your intentions close with a charm bag designed to enhance your allure, confidence, and personal magnetism wherever you go.

• Bring Me A Sugar Zaddy Ritual Kit (call in the right partner)

  • Looking for someone to share all that passion with? This ritual helps attract supportive, generous, and meaningful romantic connections.