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This ritual was designed for empaths, made to help you reclaim your energy, strengthen your boundaries, and break free from the people, situations, and patterns that leave you feeling emotionally, mentally, or spiritually drained.

Sometimes people use this ritual after ending a toxic relationship, dealing with difficult family members, a challenging workplace, or simply feeling exhausted after giving too much of themselves for too long. Not every energy vampire is malicious. Some people simply take more than they give. This ritual is about making sure your energy belongs to you again.

If you're a baby witch, you'll find detailed instructions below to guide you through the process. No gatekeeping here.

If you're a seasoned practitioner, take a look anyway. I've included a few techniques I've found especially helpful over the years, along with ideas for getting the most out of your kit.

Full Ritual Instructions

Begin by creating sacred space. Light the included (online-exclusive) Palo Santo and cleanse both yourself and the space where you'll be working. As the smoke rises, imagine any heaviness, lingering stress, or unwanted energetic attachments lifting away from you.

If you've purchased this kit from a partnered brick-and-mortar shop, feel free to use your favorite incense, sage, cedar, palo santo, or even the herbal blend included to burn on charcoal as you cleanse and prepare your space.

If you enjoy working with music, choose something that helps you feel calm, grounded, and protected. Build an altar that represents peace and healthy boundaries. You may wish to include black tourmaline, obsidian, a protective talisman, a photograph of yourself to anchor the working, a mirror to bounce energy off of, or anything that reminds you that your energy is valuable.

On a small piece of paper, write your petition in the present tense, as though it is already happening. Focus on the energy you are reclaiming rather than the person you're trying to get away from. Get as specific as you can in this petition to spirit.

Now write your own name in the center of the petition and draw a circle around it. This simple act represents your energy returning to you and your boundaries becoming whole again.

Take a few moments to hold your petition between your hands. Read it aloud several times. Imagine every piece of your energy you've given away unnecessarily flowing back to you. See it returning from unhealthy relationships, stressful situations, old conversations, obligations, guilt, and worry. With each breath, feel yourself becoming lighter, calmer, stronger, and more like yourself again.

Hold the candle in your hands and charge it with that same intention. Imagine it filling with protection, clarity, confidence, and the strength to maintain healthy boundaries.

Using a pin, nail, or carving tool, carve a word or short phrase into the candle that represents your goal. 

Anoint the candle on all sides with a small amount of the included ritual oil, working from the base toward the wick to draw protection, strength, and your own energy back into your life. Sprinkle a pinch or two of the herbal blend directly onto your petition, then roll the oiled candle along it- sticking the herbs to the oil on your candle. Your candle is now dressed. 

Secure it in the cast iron chime candle holder included. Fold your petition toward yourself, then three more times, turning it clockwise between each fold to draw your energy back where it belongs. 6:00, 9:00, 12:00, 3:00, then back to yourself at 6:00 where the petition has been folded 4 times.

Place the folded petition securely under the cast iron candle holder to keep it connected to the working. Follow fire safety protocol, placing the candle holder in a fire proof dish. 

Light the candle.

As it burns, release the urge to fix everyone else. This ritual isn't about controlling another person's behavior. It's about changing your relationship to it. Imagine yourself moving through life with healthy boundaries, clear intuition, and the confidence to say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no.

Allow the candle to burn completely in a safe location.

When the ritual is complete, allow your petition to remain beneath the candle overnight. The following day, burn it to ash, trusting that your intention has been heard. From this point forward, use your heightened awareness to pay attention to the people, situations, and opportunities that no longer feel aligned. Sometimes protection looks like walking away.

So mote it be.

Working With Your Kit

Each ritual kit contains enough oil and herbal material for up to 30 rituals, allowing you to return to this work whenever your boundaries need reinforcing or you feel your energy beginning to slip away.

Herbal Blend

Dress candles with a small pinch during each working to strengthen protection and support healthy energetic boundaries.

Energy Vampire No More Ritual Oil

Use a small amount to dress candles before each ritual. You may also anoint journals, mirrors, protective talismans, or other ritual tools dedicated to boundary work and spiritual protection.

White Chime Candle

The candle serves as the focal point of your intention, helping absorb unwanted influences while strengthening your energetic boundaries.

Cast Iron Holder

A sturdy, reusable holder for your ritual candles. Keep it on your altar for future workings.

Online Exclusive Palo Santo

Your online-exclusive Palo Santo can be used before each ritual to spiritually cleanse yourself and your space before beginning your work.

FAQ

Do I need experience to perform this ritual?

Not at all. This guide walks you through everything step by step.

Can I use this for a specific person?

Absolutely. Many people perform this ritual with one particularly draining person in mind. Just remember that the goal isn't to manipulate their energy or control their actions—it's to reclaim your own energy and strengthen your energetic walls of protection.

How often should I perform this ritual?

Whenever you feel energetically drained or notice unhealthy patterns returning. Many practitioners revisit this ritual monthly as part of their regular spiritual maintenance.

Do I use everything in the kit at once?

No. This blend contains 20 potent herbs and only a small amount of oil and herbs are needed per candle. Your kit will last for many future workings with extra candles.

Will this remove someone from my life?

Not necessarily. Sometimes the relationship changes. Sometimes your boundaries become stronger. Sometimes people naturally drift away because they no longer have access to the energy they once did. Stay open to whatever form the magick takes for the healthiest outcome.

Continue the Work

The ritual doesn't have to end when the candle burns out. If you'd like to continue the work, here are a few of my favorite companions to this ritual.

• Bitch Be Gone Ritual Oil (banish negativity and difficult people)

  • Continue dressing candles when you need help creating distance from people or situations that continue to disrupt your peace.

• Witches' Broom Ritual Oil (spiritual cleansing and protection)

  • Use this oil regularly to maintain a spiritually clean, protected space and reinforce the healthy boundaries you've worked to build.

• Bc I Feel Like Death Tea (rest and recovery)

  • Emotional exhaustion is still exhaustion. Slow down, make yourself a cup of tea, and give your mind and body the opportunity to recover.