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This ritual was designed to help call in the kind of love that feels safe, supportive, and healing. The kind of relationship that reminds you not everyone will hurt you, and that it's okay to open your heart again.

Sometimes this ritual is used after heartbreak, betrayal, divorce, or unhealthy relationships. Sometimes it's performed to call in a soulmate, reconnect with someone meant to walk beside you, or simply attract the people who will help you grow into the person you're becoming. However you choose to work with it, this ritual was designed to help support those goals.

If you're a baby witch, you'll find detailed instructions to guide you through the process. No gatekeeping here.

If you're a seasoned practitioner, take a look anyway. Included is helpful information on your kit, techniques I have found to be especially effective beyond lighting a wick, and suggestions for continuing the work after the initial ritual is complete.

Full Ritual Instructions

Begin by creating sacred space. Light incense and play music that helps you shift into a ritual mindset. The included herbal blend may be burned on charcoal, or you may use an incense of your own choosing.

Cleanse both your aura and your physical space by lighting the online-exclusive included  Palo Santo stick or spiritual cleansing material of your choice. As the smoke rises, visualize heartbreak, fear, disappointment, old wounds, and anyone who no longer belongs in your story dissolving and leaving your field. Imagine your heart becoming lighter, softer, and ready to receive the love that's meant for you.

If desired, create an altar or ritual workspace using fresh flowers, rose quartz, meaningful photographs, love letters, symbols of hope, jewelry, or other meaningful objects connected to the relationship you'd like to call in. If you do not maintain a formal spiritual practice, simply choose a quiet space where you can focus clearly on your intention.

On a piece of paper, write a clear and specific petition describing the relationship you'd like to experience. Rather than focusing on a specific person, focus on how you want to feel—safe, cherished, supported, respected, peaceful, and loved exactly as you are. Be as specific as possible.

While reconciliation is certainly possible, no ritual can force someone to become the person you need them to be. For that reason, this ritual is often most effective when your petition focuses on the feelings and qualities you're calling into your life, rather than attaching them to one specific person.

Hold the petition paper between your hands and charge it with your intention. Visualize yourself already living the life you've described. Picture a relationship where you can laugh freely, communicate honestly, feel emotionally safe, and trust the person standing beside you. Imagine yourself feeling like yourself again. Allow yourself to fully experience the feelings of peace, excitement, gratitude, confidence, and genuine happiness.

Next, hold the candle in your hands and charge it with the same intention. Carve hearts, affirmations, sigils, or phrases related to your desired outcome into the wax.

Apply the ritual oil to the candle, sprinkle a small amount of herbal blend onto your petition paper, then roll the candle through the herbs while speaking your intention aloud.

Place the dressed candle into the included cast iron holder and set it inside a fire-safe bowl or dish. Fold your petition paper toward yourself once, then continue folding clockwise four times to symbolically draw loving, supportive relationships into your life. Place the folded petition beneath the candle holder.

Light the candle and allow it to burn completely. Spend a few quiet moments focusing on the kind of relationship you're ready to receive. Trust that by releasing what no longer serves you, you're creating space for something healthier to find you.

Once the candle has finished burning, leave the petition beneath the holder overnight. The following day, either burn the petition to ash in a fire-safe container or place it somewhere meaningful, such as beneath your mattress, inside your nightstand, or on your altar as a reminder of the intention you've set.

So mote it be.

Working With Your Kit

Each ritual kit contains enough oil and herbal material for up to 30 rituals or spell workings, depending on how heavily they are used.

Herbal Blend

Use for candle dressing, incense, offerings, love work, soulmate rituals, attraction spell work, heart-healing rituals, or other workings centered on healthy relationships and emotional renewal.

Ritual Oil

Use on candles, petitions, jewelry, mirrors, journals, ritual tools, or objects connected to your intention. May also be worn on pulse points before dates, meaningful conversations, or whenever you'd like to remind yourself of the love you're calling in.

Pink Chime Candle

For love, compassion, healing, emotional renewal, and gentle attraction.

Cast Iron Chime Candle Holder

Designed for use with the included chime candle.

Online-Exclusive Palo Santo

Use to cleanse yourself, your ritual tools, and your space before ritual work. May also be used whenever you're ready to release old relationship energy and welcome a fresh start.

Ongoing Use

Many practitioners continue working with the included oil before dates, anniversaries, important conversations, after moments of self-doubt, or whenever they wish to remain open to healthy, supportive relationships.

Each ritual kit contains enough oil and herbal material for up to 30 individual workings when used primarily for candle dressing. Additional chime candles may be used to revisit the ritual whenever desired.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do I need experience to use this kit?

Not at all.

Love That Healed Me was designed to be approachable for beginners while remaining useful for experienced practitioners.

Do I have to be looking for a romantic relationship?

Not necessarily.

While many practitioners use this ritual to call in a loving partner, others perform it to attract soul family, meaningful friendships, mentors, or the people who are meant to help them heal and grow during this chapter of life.

Can I use this to reconnect with a soulmate?

Many practitioners do.

Whether you're hoping for reconciliation, reunion, or simply trusting that the right people will arrive at the right time, this ritual may be used to support those intentions while remaining open to the highest good.

How often can I perform the ritual?

As often as you feel called.

Many practitioners revisit this work during the new moon, after completing healing work, before dating again, or whenever they're ready to welcome love back into their lives.

Do I have to use all of the herbs and oil at once?

Please don't!

A little goes a long way. Most kits contain enough material for up to 30 individual workings when used primarily for candle dressing. Additional herbs and oil may be used for incense, offerings, altar work, baths, and other love-focused spiritual practices as desired.

Continue the Work

The ritual doesn't have to end when the candle burns out. If you'd like to continue the work, here are a few of my favorite companions to this ritual.

• Self Care Gift Set: So In Love With Me Herbal Bath and Tea (build the relationship with yourself)

  • The strongest relationships begin with the one you have with yourself. This tea and herbal bath ritual encourages self-love, confidence, and emotional healing.

• Venus Ritual Tea (work with the planet of love)

  • Sip in honor of Venus to invite love, harmony, beauty, and meaningful relationships into your life.

• Bad Bitch Energy Ritual Oil (remember your worth)

  • Healthy love begins with knowing you deserve it. Wear this ritual oil whenever you need a reminder of your confidence, your strength, and everything you bring to the table.

• Best I Ever Had Ritual Kit (when you're ready for the next chapter)

  • Once you've called in a healthy relationship, deepen the passion, intimacy, and connection between you.